To make a living versus to live.

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One of the primary our primary goal nowadays is to make a living, which means to find a job and build a career and earn a decent salary so we can live. It is the direct impact of us living in a totally material and capitalist world. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with that provided we are satisfied with what we are doing and we live comfortable. That is we are able to satisfy our basic needs and some of our endless wants, which will translate into some kind of happiness for most of us.

However, what i have a problem getting along with, is the fact that people are so much focus on building a career and making money that they forget the basics of living. Yes, there is a difference in those two. Being alive only doesn’t define living, if we are not having enough time…

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Insights of Hope.

A lot of times i have heard people calling each other stupid because the other happens to have hope and this got me thinking. Why such a reaction? I have come to the conclusion that perhaps people are afraid of hoping because they are afraid of disappointments. They like to play it safe and do not wish to have their spirit crushed by not getting what they hoped for.

On the other hand, isn’t it just a way of holding ourselves back ? I believe it is, because if you do not have hopes, it is very hard to move forward. Expectations are what drives us to progress. You want something, you work for it then you hope it happens as reward of what you have worked for. But if we do not have hope then what are we working for ? We are just being stagnant and waiting to be carried in whichever direction the wind blows.

If we are to live such a life, we will certainly not get anywhere for ourselves, instead we will he getting to other people’s destination and be part of someone else’s hope. There is nothing wrong in playing a role in another person’s achievement, it is great and very noble to give a helping hand but one the other hand, from time to time we should have hopes of our own and let others be part of it.

That way we both get to be on both sides of the equation and it will be more balanced rather than being one sided at all times. What i am trying to say is do not hold back on your hopes just because of fear or simply to avoid being disappointed. You have to put yourself out there, sometimes it will work out good and other times not so good. Either way keep going and keep hoping for without hope we are definitely setting ourselves for the best disappointment that can be, which is letting ourselves down.

 

 

 

Laval Andy Alain

To make a living versus to live.

One of the primary our primary goal nowadays is to make a living, which means to find a job and build a career and earn a decent salary so we can live. It is the direct impact of us living in a totally material and capitalist world. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with that provided we are satisfied with what we are doing and we live comfortable. That is we are able to satisfy our basic needs and some of our endless wants, which will translate into some kind of happiness for most of us.

However, what i have a problem getting along with, is the fact that people are so much focus on building a career and making money that they forget the basics of living. Yes, there is a difference in those two. Being alive only doesn’t define living, if we are not having enough time to be at ease and at peace. Money is a great thing,very true, without it we would hardly survive in this world because nobody will come along to hand u a stash of cash for free.

My point is, as much as it is important to make a living, it is even more important to live while doing so. It’s not about being busy or having to work too much because we cannot meet the ends but it is about making the most of our existence. In my opinion, a person should have time to rest, have time to think, be able to spend  time with your family or loved ones and most importantly, have time with oneself. Get to know oneself and feel comfortable with ourselves and own company.

So, do not spend all of your time chasing money, only to find out that you are now reaching your retirement and you realize, you are divorced, your kids hate you because you were not there for them and you are alone in an empty house. Only then you are going to take your lump sum to go on a cruise or that vacation which you planned twenty years ago. Take a breather, find time to do little things that will keep you going daily and also love.

Time doesn’t wait and nothing around you will wait for you to be free, instead you have to free yourself so that you can do what matters the most. Do not sacrifice your life at the expense of making a living because at the end of the journey, you will not be remembered for your title or position or how much money you made because your position would have been filled, you money will not bring time back.

Spend time and make memories which will last forever and that is far much more important than making a living.

Life is all about memories, not a title.

 

Laval Andy Alain

 

To love versus the idea of love.

We are all searching for love and somewhere along the way we find ourselves in relationships and we say we are in love. We feel good in the  beginning but as time passes by, we find ourselves start complaining about the other person as they no longer fit us. It start with simple arguments like you are so selfish, you do not even think about me.

From there it goes down a spiral of daily complaints and no matter what the other person may be doing, there is always some faults to be found and some blame. What we will fail to realize is perhaps we are the one at fault. Accepting to be wrong is a great deal for us humans as we like to think of ourselves as flawless. Yes we are in a way flawless but when it comes to love, it is much more than flaws.

Before getting involved with someone we already have expectations on how we want that other one to be. At first, it is very easy to fit those shoes of our imaginations but as time goes by, those shoes will become bigger for them to fit in and it will be either too tight or too loose. No one wants to wear uncomfortable shoes by the way.

So what we do we say that this person has changed and that is why things are not working.Truth is the person hasn’t changed at all, they have always been the same but simply it was easier to try to fit in at first. The killer is nothing but those expectations of ours which leave no room for acceptance or understanding, nor room for growth. In these tight spaces with specific guidelines and requirements we fell in love with the idea in our mind rather than with the person in front of us.

This is the buzz killer of most relationships nowadays, we run into love as we are going shopping for objects and we forget that love is feeling and the subject is living and that there are traits to their own character and persona.

They key here is to give room to breathe, to let time pass, to let us get to know each other , to not have expectations and then to decide if we can call it love or not.

Do not fall in love but rather lean into it and embrace the person and his or her personality with all his or her traits then decide whether it is worth it or not. That way we have a better change at loving.

 

 

Lost in yourself.

Have you ever felt like you are stuck somewhere but yet you cannot identify the place? Everything around you is gloomy and faded. Life has lost it’s essence and all is just dark. Even in the brightest and clearest sky, all you can see is dark grey clouds. Despite this melancholy, you try your best to stay afloat and yet it is barely enough to catch a breath. Every single time you try to inhale, your nose is blocked and you choke. Every time you open your eyes, there is this darkness that blind you.

Yet you keep trying to figure out where you are so that you can find your way out. You hear that voice telling you that everything is alright but when you look around all you see is despair.Now you are even more lost in this unknown place because of the confusion. How can all be well when you do not feel well? Your bloated stomach from your lost of appetite. You are thirty but don’t feel like drinking. Living has seem to become a task which requires so much effort.

You keep wondering what you have done wrong to have reached this state.How did you manage to reach this point? So many questions that keep adding to the list of unanswered ones.”Where am i? ” you constantly ask.

There you are trapped in a body, lost in yourself. You have lost control and you are a passenger in your own car. Looks like it is on autopilot but you can see that if that keep going in the same direction, you will crash and you are just unable to take control back. Stuck in the passenger seat, hypnotized by all this sadness that has crawled its way into your deepest core, you feel like a lost cause as all your cries for help have remained unanswered.

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The law of negativity.

The concept of law of negativity is pretty simple and straightforward. It is such a powerful law that once we step into it we get swallowed deeper within and if we do not recognize the pattern we may not be able to get out of it. It will drain you and pull you down the spiral of misery.

You may have already experienced it, once you start having negative thoughts,more will keep coming  as if they are  breeding in your mind. Likewise if you have a problem and focus on the problem, there seem to be no way out but if instead you try to find a solution, things somehow work itself out. So to say, negative thinking only breeds negative thinking and negative actions.

Nothing good has and ever will come out of negativity because negativity will absorb everything around it if allowed to. Therefore, in order to deal with it we must definitely start at the root, that is through our thoughts, once you get a negative thought,you should imperatively shift to something pleasant even if it’s not related to the subject you are dealing with. That way you stop the proliferation of the negative energy towards you.

Eventually, from that perspective there will be a change in the chemistry of your brain and quality of thoughts will rise. You will start feeling less miserable and once you feel better, you see clearer.Long story short, my point is to be aware of your thoughts and whenever you realize that you are being drifted into some negative vibes, you simply have to break the pattern.

It sounds easy but it is not so easy, don’t beat yourself about it, you need practice to master it. So get started today by paying attention to your thoughts. They say Rome was not built in one day, i will tell you that a beautiful mind is not build with just one thought. Start now and embellish your mind i can guarantee you that you will enjoy the results.

Much love, peace and blessings to you.

With Respect,

L.A

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