To love versus the idea of love.

We are all searching for love and somewhere along the way we find ourselves in relationships and we say we are in love. We feel good in the  beginning but as time passes by, we find ourselves start complaining about the other person as they no longer fit us. It start with simple arguments like you are so selfish, you do not even think about me.

From there it goes down a spiral of daily complaints and no matter what the other person may be doing, there is always some faults to be found and some blame. What we will fail to realize is perhaps we are the one at fault. Accepting to be wrong is a great deal for us humans as we like to think of ourselves as flawless. Yes we are in a way flawless but when it comes to love, it is much more than flaws.

Before getting involved with someone we already have expectations on how we want that other one to be. At first, it is very easy to fit those shoes of our imaginations but as time goes by, those shoes will become bigger for them to fit in and it will be either too tight or too loose. No one wants to wear uncomfortable shoes by the way.

So what we do we say that this person has changed and that is why things are not working.Truth is the person hasn’t changed at all, they have always been the same but simply it was easier to try to fit in at first. The killer is nothing but those expectations of ours which leave no room for acceptance or understanding, nor room for growth. In these tight spaces with specific guidelines and requirements we fell in love with the idea in our mind rather than with the person in front of us.

This is the buzz killer of most relationships nowadays, we run into love as we are going shopping for objects and we forget that love is feeling and the subject is living and that there are traits to their own character and persona.

They key here is to give room to breathe, to let time pass, to let us get to know each other , to not have expectations and then to decide if we can call it love or not.

Do not fall in love but rather lean into it and embrace the person and his or her personality with all his or her traits then decide whether it is worth it or not. That way we have a better change at loving.




More than just a kiss.

There she was, mesmerized by the soft touch of his lips on hers. It was unexpected but it was certainly the turn of events she had been dreaming of.

She was Caught by surprise because she didn’t know her dreams would materialize.
The caress of his fast breaths on her skin felt like the first fall of snow flakes. Cold and soft yet refreshing.
There was a moment of endless silence as time stood still, the seconds were prolonged into eternity. But deep inside feelings were boiling vigorously as magma on the verge of eruption.
All she could do was close her eyes and let herself be carried away into the depts of her deeply buried desires which she had been trying to hide and yet had been raging to emerge at the first chance. Thats was it..
Surely a moment to be remembered..
A kiss is never just a kiss..
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Written by L.A Alain.

Celebrations !! ☄🍾🎉🎈

Hi everyone,

I hope that you are all doing great and having an awesome weekend.

My Sunday is amazing and it’s a total blissful fun day. I’m happy because i have reached 500 followers!!!!

Yess!! We are growing together and i love it when the family gets bigger. I feel my vibes being spread further and futher and it is so satisfying and gratifying. I have to thanks each and everyone for embarking on this journey with me. It’s a real adventure to me and each day is a total surprise because i feel excited about each post.

Thank you ladies and gentlemen. I wish you a great Sunday and let’s all have an amazing time together.

Drinks on me!!!



The alternate reality.

I close my eyes and all is clear,

But why do I feel blinded with open eyes?

Perhaps it’s the fear,

Perhaps it’s the doubts,

Or the guilt?

They are blocking me

From my nirvana.

They are stopping me

From reaching you.

Oh wait!

I’m getting it all wrong,

I wasn’t dreaming .

Such perfection can only exist in reality.

I’m back to sleep 

Because I don’t want to leave you.

So see you in a few…

Andyology blog

L.A Alain

Challenge your limits.

Hi everyone, hope you guys are having a great time. I just wanted to reflect a little on challenges that we all face in our lifetime. Challenge is that part of growing. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and we tend to limit our challenges by staying in our comfort zone and by doing so we limit our growth. One thing we can do to enhance growth is to challenge our limits and keep pushing our boundaries, that will give us a bigger field of action and it is a sort of freedom as well.

Have a great morning/evening.



The solution 

Greetings world,

How are you today?

As we all know very often we complain that we can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. It comes in different circumstances and yet whenever faced with blockages or obstacles we get stuck. One of the reasons is because very often people refuse to see the problem in the first place. We refuse to accept that perhaps we are at fault. A lot of times the answer to all the questions reside in the recognition of the problems. This happens more often when we are at fault, it’s true we are perfect as a being but it’s also true that at times we make mistakes and we have to grow through them as well as move towards improvement.

Don’t let your ego stop you from being the best you can be.